Finding Links to the Past – By Matt Ulakovic
Finding the Link
This post explores the phenomenon of adoptees searching for their birth parents through the medium of social media. The provenance of this particular meme is a relatively recent occurrence. But the trend has been growing ever since a young woman in California created a basic poster board description of what birth details she knew, then took a photo of herself with the poster and broadcast it on social media asking others to like and share the photo so that she might possibly be able to reunite with her birth parents.
Adoptee Search Success
As crazy as this seemingly extreme tactic sounds, it actually worked. Her story was subsequently covered in the national media and furthered the attention and ambitions of many more adopted people across the country and the social-verse.
Although the practice is relatively recent to the Facebook scene, a quick search uncovers many more of these adoptee search photos online. It’s a surprising and heartbreaking discovery to see so many people resorting to such a public tactic. It’s not just photos either. Whole blogs, web sites, and social media pages are dedicated to help share the story of people carrying out the search of their lives thanks to technology.
Maybe it shouldn’t be that much of a surprise that creating and sharing these photos has become a popular hope for so many. Everyone deserves to know where they come from – for good or bad – if they so choose to know. It’s especially illuminating because most of us know someone or have a friend who is adopted, and most anyone could empathize with the desire of wanting to know your birth mom and dad and genealogy. But could we really imagine what it’s like to not know our genealogy if it’s been so certain to us our whole lives?
The message this meme sends is one that saddens the heart to contemplate. There is an absolute desperation for connections to the roots and truth of each of our lives, and the system that has been devised for adoption has its flaws. Perhaps these folks aren’t just looking for their past beginnings, but also to let the world know that the laws surrounding adoption are not right.